How to Love Your Woman: A Guide for Couples
Loving your woman involves understanding and meeting her core emotional needs. This guide outlines key areas where your actions can make her feel cherished, understood, and deeply loved.
I. CLOSENESS
She wants you to be close to her both physically and emotionally, fostering intimacy and connection.
Hold her hand.
Hug her often.
Show affection without sexual intentions.
Spend quality time alone together, focusing solely on each other and sharing laughter.
Seek her out for dedicated time, such as planning a special date night or enjoying a candlelight dinner.
Go out of your way to do something thoughtful for her, like running an errand.
Make spending time with her a clear priority in your life.
Acknowledge her as a person with her own mind and opinions; let her know you enjoy discussing things with her and value her insights.
Suggest unexpected moments: get takeout to eat on the beach, take a walk to see the full moon, or park on a bluff to watch the sunset.
Engage in meaningful pillow talk after making love: lie close with your arm around her, sharing feelings and intimate ideas, and never turn on distractions like Sports Center or Nightline.
II. OPENNESS
Your woman feels you are open to her when you share your inner world and invite her into yours.
Share your feelings, telling her about your day and any difficulties you face.
Initiate conversations by saying, "Let's talk," asking her what she's feeling and seeking her opinion.
Demonstrate your willingness to talk through your relaxed body language and good eye contact.
Pray with her.
Give her your full, undivided attention, avoiding distractions like TV, newspapers, or emails.
Discuss significant concerns, such as financial matters, potential job changes, or ideas for your shared future.
III. UNDERSTANDING
She'll feel you're truly trying to understand her when you listen empathetically and validate her experiences.
Listen attentively and be able to repeat back what she has said, confirming your comprehension.
Avoid trying to "fix her problems" unless she specifically asks for a solution.
Actively try to identify and acknowledge her feelings.
Never dismiss her feelings, no matter how illogical they may seem to you.
Express appreciation by saying, "I appreciate you sharing that with me."
Do not interrupt her when she's trying to express her feelings.
Apologize and admit when you are wrong.
Offer her some grace and understanding during her monthly cycle.
Notice something that needs to be done and take action without fuss.
Express appreciation for all she does, perhaps saying, "Honey, I could never do your job."
Pray with her and for her.
IV. PEACEMAKING
She'll feel at peace with you when you actively work to resolve conflicts and heal hurts.
Allow her to vent her frustrations and hurts without getting angry or shutting her down.
Admit when you are wrong and apologize sincerely by saying, "I'm sorry, I was wrong. Will you forgive me?"
Strive to keep your relationship "up-to-date" by resolving unresolved issues and never dismissing concerns with "Forget it."
Forgive her for any wrongs she confesses.
Never harbor bitterness and always reassure her of your love.
Pray with her after a hurtful time.
V. LOYALTY
She is assured of your loyalty when you prioritize her and your shared life in both word and deed.
Speak highly of her in front of others.
Be involved in matters that are important to her.
Help her make decisions, such as those regarding your children.
Do not look lustfully at other women.
Make her and your marriage a clear priority in your life.
Avoid being critical of her, your home, or your children in front of others.
Include her in social gatherings, even when others might leave their spouses at home.
Support her authority by telling your children, "Don't speak to your mother that way!"
Communicate your plans by calling and letting her know.
Keep your commitments.
Speak positively of her and your children at all times.
VI. ESTEEM
Your woman will feel esteemed when you express admiration and value for who she is and what she does.
Acknowledge her accomplishments by saying, "I'm so proud of the way you handled that."
Speak highly of her in front of others.
Perform chivalrous gestures, such as opening the door for her.
Be open to trying new experiences with her.
Give her encouragement or praise with genuine kindness and enthusiasm.
Notice and compliment changes in her appearance, such as her hair or clothes.
Be physically affectionate with her in public.
Teach your children to show her and others respect.
Value her opinions even in "gray areas," seeing them as different but equally valid, rather than wrong.
Prioritize family outings over "guy things."
Be proud of her and all that she does.
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